Stop Trying to be Happy

Note: I have written posts about happiness in the past … Consider this post as an add-on and continuation of what I have already written.

 

We live in a very happiness-oriented society …

Everyone wants to be happy in life … It is something that is understandable, for who wants to be miserable, right?

At the same time however, most people don’t really have an understanding on how they can achieve it. As a result, they go about running around in circles every single day, without making any progress whatsoever.

This in turn ends up making people frustrated, because they aren’t able to find the sort of happiness that they were expecting out of life …

 

This is where the problem begins …

… and must be put to an end if you don’t want to derail yourself.

I have had this problem for a very long time in my own life. There was a time when I was actively trying to be happy, no matter what.

And the funny thing is ( … did you notice the unintended pun here?), I was never able to find any happiness. In fact, you could go so far as to say that I just became frustrated over it all … I was just unable to ‘find’ happiness in life, the way I wanted to …

It was certainly an easy thing to do, when you think about happiness … Something as simple as a smile can be counted as ‘happiness’ when you think about it …

… But still, I felt that there was something missing in the happiness equation in life that I wasn’t able to understand. If I could only figure out that one thing, I could be happy forever in my life; or so I thought for I didn’t know better …

 

Why did I do this?

It’s actually very simple and easy to understand …

I grew up at a time when the world was engrossing itself in a consumerism-obsessed wonderland …

And what happens when you live in a consumerism oriented society? Simple … You get engrossed in it as well and begin to think that you must buy the junk being advertised to you every minute of your life … and the same applies even to the media as well, where everyone are always shown as happy creatures having the time of their lives …

Sadly however, none of that is true. It is to a very large extent nothing more than a wild fantasy. You would have to be a fool to believe that people actually live in such a manner. But unfortunately, there are plenty of people who live believing in the lie; and at this point, there isn’t really much that we can do about them for they will have to figure out these things all on their own.

But still, just because there are some people wanting to jump off a tall cliff doesn’t meant that you must join them … Let them do their thing and you do yours …

 

So how do you return to sanity in life?

Well, the way you do it is by understanding the reality about happiness, or what it is to a large extent anyway; The reality about happiness in life goes something like this …

You live for a set period of time, where you go through a great deal of ups and downs, until you die …

… And that’s about it.

The happiness that you yearn for cannot be the same all throughout the journey, because, well, it’s a journey of ups and downs. It’s always been the case ever since the dawn of humanity.

Therefore, to expect that you’re level of happiness is going to remain the same throughout your life is well, just plain madness. On the contrary, the life of everyone in the world is going to have fluctuating levels of happiness & sadness …

 

The reality about the life of most people is this …

For most people, life is a long and boring grind that will last them their entire life …

It is a monotonous existence for the most part, with very little excitement the way one would picture it. This is the exact opposite of what is there on reality T.V., where we are constantly told how our lives are supposed to be a gigantic dopamine blast. There is certainly some amount of dopamine that can be found along the way in life, but at the same time isn’t like that of a reality T.V. show.

If you watch this propaganda regularly, you are going to start believing it eventually. Now, this may not happen immediately, but at the same time, is not something your mind can resist for too long. In fact, propaganda works this way …

CONSTANT REPETITION.

It is certainly true that happiness can found almost every single day of your life. At the same time however, it isn’t like the sea of dopamine that one is bombarded with by the media. If you expect that you can have such a life, well, keep dreaming. The world of television is nothing more than a fantasy created to make viewers feel good, and if I could add a bit more honesty, provide an escape from the boring and monotonous insanity of everyday living …

 

Does that mean that you ought to be miserable for the rest of your life?

Actually, NO.

There is no reason for you to be miserable, because the decision to stay happy or miserable is entirely up to you. You cannot find happiness on the outside. You can find happiness in the things you get from the outside world, but at the same time, as the sentence goes, you have to ‘find’ it. It is not like you will become happy the moment you get it.

If you want proof of the above, take a look around. Most people today, at least in the more reasonably developed countries have just about everything necessary to live a comfortable life. But at the same time, do you think that they are happy?

Nope.

They are just plain miserable.

Why?

They never found happiness in the things they have. They just took it all for granted because, well, as their logic goes, these things were ‘owed’ to them …

… Maybe it could be changed but you will have to make all of those depressed people take a long vacation to a third-world country and look at just how poor people live their life; but that’s another story. I should probably make another post on that as well.

 

What it all ultimately comes down to is this …

Stop trying to be happy in life.

The longer you focus on happiness in life, the greater the misery will be.

Just find contentment in your life and do a couple of other things that I mentioned in my other posts on happiness.

Simply put …

The day you stop trying to be happy is the day you will finally get a chance to live.

 
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